Fiancee has been gone about 4 days now and now that I am back to work, I need to create a new routine for everyday and weekends. Weekends are the hardest seeing we were pretty much inseparable on the weekends but I just need to keep myself busy and my mind preoccupied. I am going to plan to go to the gym about 3 times a week which will be right after work. On my off days, I can clean my apt, visit with friends, or try to relax.
That's the hardest part, relaxing, being bored, just watching aimless tv. I tried to do it last night, watching Khloe Kardashian's wedding, but after a half hour or so I ended up dusting, cleaning, and moving around. I would love to relax and let my mind be at ease and think about nothing but I am having a hard time shutting off my mind because all my thoughts drift to him.
Once I get used to my new routine, I think it will be easier to relax. It's all an adjustment, especially living in the apt by myself.
Tonight I am getting groceries after work, which I have been dreading. I know this sounds weird but just thinking about buying groceries for me makes me sad. I have been used to buying stuff for him like his diet mtn dew or caesar salad mixes that my list seems soo small.
I'm sorry for this mopy post, I just needed to vent. I promise to work on my new routine and keep you updated on that as well as my goals.
aww - you will be ok. definitely find things to keep you busy. some other ideas:
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- trips to borders and/or barnes & noble
- hang out in starbucks & surf the internet. better than being home alone!
- start a project that will take you a LONG time and can work on it often (scrapbooking, painting).
- write letters: start writing on monday, and finish on sunday and then send him the letter. if you write a little bit every night - he will feel closer to you & you will feel like he's still a part of what you're doing!
- organize. do one room a week, and completely clean out your clutter.
- train for something - like a 10k or 1/2 marathon. the running itself takes up a lot of time, AND you'll be in great shape for your wedding! :)
ok i'm fresh out of ideas but hopefully some of these help!
I'm sure you will be able to stay busy! I found that the first few weeks of long distance, I feel as if life is at a standstill. But then after I got over it, I started reading more, exercising, spending time with friends, cooking new recipes, and I'm sure wedding planning could take some of your time? :)
ReplyDeleteDon't feel bad- you're allowed to have some moping, it's a big change, but I am confident that you'll be alright, sounds like you've got a great plan already!
Starting new routines are always the hardest!!
ReplyDeleteYou will fall into a routine soon enough. It sounds like you are doing relatively well so far, so kudos to you for that one! :)
ReplyDeleteHi Sass. I think I may have an idea for your weekend. I want to go to the Junior League shopping thing at the Fairgrounds this weekend I think. I'll let you know and if I go, you are totally invited! What are you doing tonight after grocery shopping? You're welcome to come over. I just have to go to the gym and go to Wegman's. But you could come to Wegman's with me.
ReplyDeleteI think a routine definitely helps! I went and got myself a library card and do a lot of reading, spend a lot of time at the craft store and making things (some which are useless and just pretty, but other things that are actually good for something), and trying new recipes!
ReplyDeleteMy boyfriend and I will be long distance for another year and a half or so, until May of 2011 when I graduate grad school. It definitely still sucks sometimes, but I hope the time flies by for you! I'm a new follower :)
Awe! You will quickly find a routine. My fiance' is gone 7 months out of the year while I work in Atlanta. He's not in the military, but the second worst (in my opinion). He plays prof. baseball - so he never gets a free weekend to come my way. Trust me we dated for 4 years this way and you definately learn to be independant and enjoy your time:
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running
nourturing the dogs ;-)
learning new recipes to cook when he gets back
watching whatever you want on tv!
These are a couple of things I have appreciated. Although the time apart is overwhelming and definately a sad time you will make it great too! I know what your going through. Hang in there!
Good luck!! The first week or so is the hardest, but settling into a routine is soooo helpful! It makes the days pass a lot faster especially when you are busy!
ReplyDeleteHang in there!
My husband and I spent our senior year apart because we were at different schools. I had just had a major falling out with my best friend, so I ended up losing most of my social network. Sadly, my solace was my roommate's boyfriend, who would hang out with me, while my roommate stayed in her room (she was allergic to my cat). But of course, he only hung out with me on weeknights, most of the weekends I was all by my lonesome. I cleaned a LOT and studied a LOT. I think if I had had a DVR at the time, I would've probably watched every show on cable. It does get better once you get into a routine, though. You almost start to enjoy your time by yourself. It does get easier!
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