Between the lines-The Four agreements book review

 At the end of 2020, I read The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Miguel Ruiz.  I enjoyed this book thoroughly and ended up finishing it in a day as it is less than 200 pages. This was a book I could see myself reading yearly as a reminder of the four agreements or principles to adopt and live by to free myself from doubt, unhappiness, guilt and loneliness.

The first agreement is to be impeccable with your words. In other words, speak honestly and avoid speaking ill of yourself and others (gossip). Think of your words as a powerful tool for truth and love.

The second agreement is to not take anything personally. In a world of social media messages and text messages, we can easily misinterpret another's language or subtext as abrasive. Understanding that nothing others do is because of you and what they say is a projection of their own reality or dream. The ability to be immune to the opinions and actions of others can save yourself time and unnecessary suffering.

The third agreement is to not make assumptions. Have courage enough to ask a question and communicate clearly to avoid misunderstandings and drama. This can be so hard for those, like myself, who do not like confrontation but it sounds so freeing. To be able to have little to no drama, self induced in that respect, by just asking a question and communicating openly.

The fourth agreement is to always do your best. If you always strive to do your best, no matter your circumstances, you can avoid self-criticism and judgement as well as regret. I have always put very high standards on myself which can be debilitating at times. This agreement with yourself to always do your best can avoid any internal struggles that you may wrestle with.

These four agreements are part of my new years goals but also habits I hope to create permanently in my life going forward.

I would recommend this book to every person. I think it could be a life changing book for those who are looking to be released from self-inflicted drama, regret, and guilt.